Mehr Träume, mehr zu machen
Mar. 10th, 2022 06:37 amDreams again last night. One was a family reunionish. Felt like Wyoming, it required driving on some crazy slopes. It was at a big house set on acerage with sheep and such moving in and out of the shrubbery and trees that scattered the land. I hardly recognized anyone at first, but towards the end around a big table there were some Lindahls and most of them pretty much looked past me. Some mild interactions with Barry or Scotty, maybe Jeffrey. Saw Lance outside. Dream shifted into skiing, which I haven't done in 10 years.
There was a crazy weird ski lift that was somewhat enclosed and the lifts criss crossed each other in this maze of poles and cables, no wonder they had to enclose them to keep people from touching things and getting tangled.
Woke up feeling like I needed to finally respond to Lance's text.
End of February he sent:
Take some time to answer this, just between you and me: What are your true reasons, deep down, aside from anyone outside of you, for ostracizing the family? Theologizing must be excluded from your explanation. You don't need to answer, but I am curious.
I didn't craft the careful response I had been half-planning as his message dropped further and further down amidst client messages. I ended up with this:
Kind of funny you think I'm the one doing the ostracising, but ok.
One: No one has listened to anything I say. I get talked over and down to and set aside. Tired of trying to explain myself when no one is listening. This is going to require a third party to sort through and our parents aren't willing to do that as I'm sure it will expose things (see four).
Two: I am setting boundaries, not ostracising.
Three: Our mother has a serious mental health condition that can't be cured, it can be maintained, but not cured. Thinking that her spending nearly 24/7 with someone who has the same condition isn't going to jostle things loose and cause problems is naive.
Four: Our parents have lied for and about Amanda and I don't want to be anywhere near that mess when it finally explodes. It will be Angi times ten.
Now to go about my day.
There was a crazy weird ski lift that was somewhat enclosed and the lifts criss crossed each other in this maze of poles and cables, no wonder they had to enclose them to keep people from touching things and getting tangled.
Woke up feeling like I needed to finally respond to Lance's text.
End of February he sent:
Take some time to answer this, just between you and me: What are your true reasons, deep down, aside from anyone outside of you, for ostracizing the family? Theologizing must be excluded from your explanation. You don't need to answer, but I am curious.
I didn't craft the careful response I had been half-planning as his message dropped further and further down amidst client messages. I ended up with this:
Kind of funny you think I'm the one doing the ostracising, but ok.
One: No one has listened to anything I say. I get talked over and down to and set aside. Tired of trying to explain myself when no one is listening. This is going to require a third party to sort through and our parents aren't willing to do that as I'm sure it will expose things (see four).
Two: I am setting boundaries, not ostracising.
Three: Our mother has a serious mental health condition that can't be cured, it can be maintained, but not cured. Thinking that her spending nearly 24/7 with someone who has the same condition isn't going to jostle things loose and cause problems is naive.
Four: Our parents have lied for and about Amanda and I don't want to be anywhere near that mess when it finally explodes. It will be Angi times ten.
Now to go about my day.











